The foundation for good parent-teacher relationships is frequent and open communication. Both teachers and parents share the responsibility for creating such a foundation.

Parents can: Introduce themselves. At the beginning of the school year, parents can let teachers know when they can be reached most easily (daytime or evening) to discuss their child's classroom experience, and also how they would prefer to be contacted (by telephone, e-mail, or letter or in person).

Be involved in classroom and school activities at whatever level work and family responsibilities allow. If parents cannot volunteer or go on field trips, they can let the teacher know that they are interested in helping in other ways, such as with displays and weekend activities.

Initiate regular contact. Parents need not wait for the teacher to call them; they can contact the teacher at times the teacher has indicated are convenient.

What Are Some Strategies for Teachers and Parents Who Disagree?

On those inevitable occasions when teachers and parents disagree about curriculum, assignments, peer relationships, homework, or teaching approaches, a pattern of open communication can be invaluable for resolving differences.

Parents must know the facts when discussing disagreements with teachers. Parents should:

Talk directly with the teacher about problems. Address complaints directly to the teacher, either in person or by telephone, and then to other school personnel in the order specified by school policy. It is important to check the facts directly with the teacher before drawing conclusions.

Avoid criticizing the teacher in front of children. Besides causing confusion and conflict, criticizing the teacher in front of the child does nothing to address the problem. Criticism may put a young child in a bind over divided loyalties. As children age, such criticism may foster arrogance, defiance, and rudeness toward teachers.

Choose an appropriate time and place to discuss disagreements. Parents should keep in mind that the end of the day, when both teachers and parents are tired, is probably not the best time for a discussion involving strong feelings. If an extended discussion is needed, make an appointment with the teacher.

Conclusion:

Parents and teachers share responsibility for the education and socialization of children. Preventing and resolving the differences that may arise between parents, teachers, and children by using constructive communication, respect, grace, and good humor can help make school a pleasant place.

This was excerpted courtesy of the Educational Resources Information Center

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