One of the simplest ways to keep teens under control is to keep them busy. I have always maintained that a bored teen is much more likely to display unacceptable behaviors. When teens are busy they are challenged. They also do not have time left for getting into trouble.

If a teen's world is constantly changing, it is exciting. The instant their existence is boring, trouble can begin. They must be challenged at school, busy at home, and constantly learning new things, and making new acquaintances.

If your teen finds the classroom boring, his mind will not focus on the lesson. Adults have this same problem, but they are not also experiencing, disturbing body changes, out-of-control emotions, running rampant hormones, and a need to defy social convention and established institutions. Getting rid of boredom is fraught with danger for the teen. It seems when a teen tries to get rid of 'sameness', they lose 'saneness.'

The best way to avoid the problem is to keep your young person busy. Start with a well-rounded school existence. Choose from sports, music, and art. Add clubs and associations. They should attend dances, games, and other school-sponsored activities. Even though teens often believe these are 'lame', parents should encourage them since interaction with lots of people is vital. If high school functions aren't their idea of fun, search for opportunities through your community. Adult Ed can provide classes to learn new hobbies or trips. Your church may offer clubs, 'field trips', camps and another class of folks to meet.

Don't underestimate the importance of family events. Include all kids in everything from vacations to family picnics. Invite their friends occasionally to join you on these outings. Teens should be expected to be part of all these activities if you wish to keep their family connection strong.

Add a job for the teen that has too much time on their hands. It will provide them with extra cash, a future employment reference, and job- training skills. Add volunteer work to the above list to cover the spectrum of possibilities. Make sure your teen still has time for being alone and time with his peers. Neither of these should be excluded.

All activities can be dependent on your teen maintaining grades and reasonable, acceptable behavior. Be careful during grounding to not extend the time so long that your teen may not do anything for overlong periods. This teen will become bored and probably rebel. Being consistent and practical is always the best guide.

Credits: Jo Ann Wentzel