Miracles DO Happen
Our adoption story is very different from the average story. My husband and I were in our early 40's and my husband wanted to adopt a child
. I had had a hysterectomy back in 1992 and didn't think about having children. My husband brought up adoption, but I was negative about it because my brother was adopted from the state and we had so many problems with him growing up.
Before my surgery, we did try to have children, and my husband was very supportive so, when he mentioned adoption again, I reconsidered. We met a woman who had adopted a boy from Ecuador, and my husband said, what about international adoption? Well, I said why don't we look into it. I asked the woman for her agency, and we went to an information meeting. From there, we made an appointment with the social worker, July 2, 1999. (This date becomes very important in the future.) Well, we met, she loved us, but the realty of the situation was children adopted internationally cost anywhere from $15,000-$30,000, and we were self-employed with no savings, living in an apartment, and we had credit card debt. So, the social worker said to us to see what we could do and gave us some paperwork to fill out.
We decided to work really hard and pay off our credit card.(We did.) My husband took a less paying job to get health insurance. We moved into a house. (My parents
had moved to Florida.) After all of this, we still didn't have the money. We didn't want to borrow from family. This is something we wanted to do on our own. That Fall, we spoke one more time with the social worker, telling her all our plans, but that is where it ended.
I do remember praying to God and saying, unless someone left us a bundle of money, there is no way this would happen. I left it there and we went on with our lives. Now, this is where it gets exciting. Forward to March 22, 2000. We just got back from visiting with my family in Florida, and we checked our phone messages. There were two messages from the social worker. The first said, "I don't know if you are still interested in adoption but something has come up. Call me." The next message was more urgent. "Call right away."
Little did I realize that call was a week old. Well, we called immediately, and she spoke with us. There was a family that had gone to Ecuador
and adopted a child and came back to the states. They decided (personal reasons) they could not keep the child; did we want to adopt still? We were shocked. My husband said the only thing that stood in the way was the cost, and she told us it would only be the agency fees. Being that we were low income, and I think because of the circumstances, we had a benefactor contribute to our adoption. After a brief discussion, we called her back and said yes. By the way, was it a boy or girl? It was a boy! We never imagined getting a boy, because they say that is so unusual.
We got this call on a Wednesday. Friday was our first home study meeting, and we got our first pictures. They were pictures of him at 5 months and 8 months. He was 14 months at this time. Oh, did I mention that they told us we would get him in 2 weeks? You can't imagine the craziness. We called friends and family and shocked them all. They never knew we had looked into adoption. Why, we had been married 19 years, no children!
Then came the scramble to get all the necessary paperwork done and shopping for baby things. So many people contributed gifts that by the time he came, we had all we needed. He actually did come to us April 25, 2000, and we have had an exciting 3 years. By the way, he was legally adopted July 2, 2001, a year to the date of our first meeting with the social worker. Do miracles happen? Yes, they do, and for all those future parents or wanna-be parents, our advice is to go ahead, inform yourself. Get the paperwork done; somehow, someway...a miracle may happen to you.