Soon the first day of spring will be here. New seasons always make me feel hopeful and renewed. The sight of the robin and those first lime-green blades of grass poking up through the snow fill me with promise. At this time of year, I believe it is possible for anything to happen, even miracles.
Parents need signs of spring in their everyday life to deal with the tough decisions it takes to raise teens. They need a hopeful attitude that keeps them trying and doesn't allow them to give up on their teen. To keep their disposition sunny and their outlook positive, parents need permission to give themselves certain things. It is vital to have enough rest and respite from your problems in the form of recreation, fun, or quiet time. Couples need time alone to strengthen their own relationship. Bring a flower, a bright color, or a poem into your home. Beauty helps to fight depression and keep you cheery.
Your teen also needs a chance to enjoy the spring promise of a new beginning. They need to prove they can do better. Just because they've messed up does not follow they will again. Don't carry around that old baggage about your teens past performance. Encourage them to do better. Show your faith and be positive about their future. Say, "I know you've made mistakes in the past, but I have so much faith in you. I just know you will conquer this problem. I believe you can be a success at anything you choose. Choose to make it, choose to do better, choose to live."
With teens and parents both having a positive attitude about a new beginning, you should soon witness a transformation in your life every bit as wonderful as the appearance of that first spring tulip.