In general, this is a terrific newsletter, but over the last year, I've noticed something that concerns me. Are there support groups specifically to address the concerns of adoptive parents whose children have begun searching for their birth families? Where are the letters and articles from and about these people?

In newsletter after newsletter, I've read about search techniques and struggles, of successful reunions and support sessions for those whose search did not end happily. But what about the adoptive families who must stand back and let their child search? Certainly it must be an emotional time for the family that raised these beloved children. Certainly these families must have something to share. I think their perspective would lend some balance to this site.

Two years ago, we adopted our child internationally. She had lived in an orphanage since shortly after birth and was 16 months old. We have her birth mother's name through orphanage documents. When the time comes, we will give our daughter all the information we have. Though it may be years away, the thought already makes me cry.

We will respect her decision, if it is to search for her biological mother, but privately, I wonder how I will deal with the pain and uncertainty. In the meantime I will be on the lookout for readings about the love and support of our adoptive families!! ~ Janice

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