Marsha was worried. For some time, her 15-year-old son, Thomas, had appeared depressed. Formerly an outgoing, energetic youngster who was popular with his teachers and peers, Thomas had all but dropped out of school and now spent much of his time alone in his bedroom. When confronted about the change, the teen's response was: "Don't worry. I won't be around to bother you much longer."

Marsha has good cause to be concerned. Her son Thomas is exhibiting behavior common to young people who are either contemplating or about to attempt suicide.

The thought of a youngster dying by his or her own hand is a reality that no parent likes to dwell on. However, the fact is that suicide is the third leading cause of death among teenagers after accidents and homicides in North America. Given the statistics, wise parents will probably want to take the time to learn the warning signs and what to do about them.

There is any number of indicators that a child is in severe emotional pain. These range from a change in sleeping and eating patterns to apathy and withdrawal. Frequently, suicidal young people -- who may or may not be abusing alcohol or drugs -- express feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness. Prior to an actual attempt, it's not uncommon for a sufferer to give away prize possessions or make a will.

If a parent witnesses any of these symptoms, the first course of action is to take the situation seriously. Diminishing the severity of the problem could be tragic. A parent can also help a child get his feelings into the open. Listen to your child. Ask direct questions such as "Are you feeling like you want to harm yourself?" "Do you have a plan for ending your life?"

The answers you receive will determine the severity of problem as well as a course of action. If you believe your child is in imminent danger, do not leave him alone. Seek help through the emergency department of your local hospital. In less critical circumstances, discuss with your child the options of seeking help from your clergyman, family doctor or local distress center.

Perhaps one of the most effective approaches a parent can take is to let a child know she's loved and not alone.

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