Discipline your children thoughtfully. Never discipline your child when you are upset. Give yourself time to calm down. Remember that discipline is a way to teach your child. Use privileges to encourage good behavior and time-outs to help your child regain control. Both words and actions can inflict deep, lasting wounds. Use your actions to show children and other adults that conflicts can be settled without hitting or yelling.
Support prevention programs. Too often, intervention occurs only after abuse is reported. Greater investments are needed in programs that have been proven to stop the abuse before it occurs-such as family counseling and home visits by nurses who provide assistance for newborns and their parents.
Know what child abuse is, and what the signs are. Physical and sexual abuse clearly constitute maltreatment, but so does neglect, or the failure of parents or other caregivers to provide a child with needed food, clothing, and care. Children can also be emotionally abused when they are rejected, berated, or continuously isolated. Unexplained injuries aren't the only signs of abuse-depression, fear of a certain adult, difficulty trusting others or making friends, sudden changes in eating or sleeping patterns, inappropriate sexual behavior, poor hygiene, secrecy, and hostility are often signs of family problems and may indicate a child is being neglected or physically, sexually, or emotionally abused.
Report abuse. If you witness a child being harmed or see evidence of abuse, or if a child tells you about abuse, make a report to your state's child protective services department or local police. When talking to a child about abuse, listen carefully, assure the child that he or she did the right thing by telling an adult, and affirm that he or she is not responsible for what happened.
Invest in kids. Encourage leaders in the community to be supportive of children and families. Ask employers to provide family-friendly work environments. Ask your local and national lawmakers to support legislation to better protect our children and to improve their lives.
Write, visit, fax, phone, or e-mail your elected officials. Request that your governor, state legislators, county commissioners, and mayor proclaim the month of April as Child Abuse Prevention Month and fly the Children's Memorial Flag. Notify your U.S. Representative and Senators about activities to memorialize children lost to violence.
Participate in ceremonies to memorialize children. Read the names of children lost to violence in your state, hold a candlelight vigil, or host an event at your state capital to remember those children who were lost to violence.
Raise public awareness. Purchase a Children's Memorial Flag and fly it on April 25th, Children's Memorial Day. Distribute information about Child Abuse Prevention Month and the Children's Memorial Flag. Issue news releases, photographs, public service announcements, and compelling stories to the media, advocacy groups, parent/teacher organizations, police stations, hospitals, community centers, websites and special interest groups.
Encourage neighbors, church, workplace, the media, and business leaders to order the Children's Memorial Flag. This can be done by: a call to 800/407-6273 or 301/617-7825, a fax to 301/206-9789, a letter mailed to CWLA, PO Box 2019, Annapolis Junction, MD 20701-2019, an e-mail sent to email@example.com, or a visit to the Children's Memorial Flag purchase page.
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