The Adoption Option

Hi! I am a 36-year-old married mother of three boys, ages 9, 11, and 13. I gave up my fourth child, a girl, on January 17, 2002. The reason I gave her up was because she was conceived while my current husband and I were separated, and we got back together while I was pregnant with her.

I didn't feel it would be fair to try and raise her, as she wasn't my husband's child, and her birth father was a good friend of my husband's.

The family that adopted her is a married couple, male and female, who were able to conceive one child together, a boy, who is now 5 years old, but upon trying for a second child, suffered through four miscarriages.

I met my adoption attorney through the Crisis Pregnancy Center in Simi Valley, Ca. She turned out to be "My Angel". She has a family of her own and was there for me night or day, and we still keep in touch. She loves her work and really cares about the birthmothers and their babies.

It was very hard for me to give her up, as I always dreamed of having a baby girl to raise and love, but God stepped in, and this little miracle named Coleen Desiree Lacey, was a gift to the couple that suffered so much emotional heartbreak upon trying to conceive another child. They were in the delivery room at the time of her birth, and the husband cut her cord.

I felt that having them in the delivery room to see her born would help them bond with her right away. I still receive pictures and letters from them, and she is almost 2 years old. She looks happy and very healthy. I want to help other birthmothers by sharing my story with them, and just be there for them to listen to their fears, feelings, and concerns.

"The Adoption Option", was the most rewarding part of my life besides giving birth to my three sons. Thank You, and God Bless all!

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