Grandmother needs advice:

"My husband is a stepfather to my son who has recently had a lovely baby boy and maintains a relationship with his natural father. The concern has come up as to what the baby should call my husband. My ex is being called by a traditional name. II don't want to confuse the baby by having the same name.

Do you have any alternative names we can use for the baby to call his step-grandfather? Any light you can throw on the subject would be greatly
appreciated. (Edited to assure confidentiality).

Grandmother needs Advice

My ex-husband and I had 3 daughters together during our 20-year marriage. The oldest daughter is married and now has a 1-year old. She is planning on allowing the baby to call his step-grandmother (my ex-husband's new wife) grandma.

I object because this woman used to be my best friend, and had an affair with my husband while we were still married, behind my back. I don't feel she should have that privilege; that it belongs to me and to his paternal grandmother.

Is there anything, anywhere that I can read for opinions on this? I have been crying for a month, and do not feel I can emotionally handle listening to him call her "grandma". I need some validation or confirmation on whether I am out of line or not.

Stepgrandmother Needs Advice

I am the stepgrandmother of a 13 year old grandson and 10 year old
granddaughter whom I had a daily close relationship with all of their life
until 2 years ago.

Their grandfather, my husband of 16 years has a very bitter ex-wife. She
will never let go until the day she or he dies. This is a silent reason
behind the problem. Money is the other, yet never spoken. We did everything
for these adult children and grandchildren for years. About a year before
the separation we begin to do normal things and the less money we gave the
more they pulled away until it was over. Money is my opinion. My husband
did not have money until we married so the anger is directed at me.

I'm not sure even now after several court hearings why they terminated my
contact with the children. They have told several stories and changed the
"reasons" six times. My husband won visitation with the children and I
received the blessings of the court. It is now on appeal in the Alabama
Court of Civil Appeals.

I would like to find out more on stepgrandparents rights. The 13 year old
wrote me a letter which was admitted in court and really caused a stir with
the judge screaming and yelling at the parents.

All I have researched does not give me much rights. I would understand this
if I was not still married to their grandfather or if I had not been a daily
part of their lives for so long.

We have spent $25,000.00 in the last 18 months and still have not spent one
day with the children. The lawyers don't care, have no time to really get to
the truth, to busy to get to the next case and $$$$'s.

I know, no matter what happens in court, these children will never forget the
love and times spent together as a intact family and I will see them one day
as adults. It is not right to lose all the years of growing up or the love
and support we could have given them. We are missing so much now because of
an angry mother who has told so many lies to our son.