The Flight/Plight of Adoption

Every adoptive couple's fear is that their birthmom will change her mind and want "your" baby back. Your newly born baby will be ripped away from you. . .how can one overcome this threat and the heartache and disappointment associated with it?

When a woman becomes pregnant, there is no guarantee that she won't have a miscarriage, a stillborn birth, a retarded or disabled child. Unfortunately, life doesn't come with guarantees and either does adoption.

We must all enter into the adoption process with a clean understanding that there are risks and no guarantees. We all work hard and strive for the most painless adoptions possible, however, failure can result.

I compare adoption to commercial aviation. Each day, one and a half million planes take off and land safely from countless airports. Once in a great while there's a plane crash (aviation doesn't come with guarantees either). Does the world stop flying? Of course not, because air travel is safer, faster, and more direct than other means of transportation. Yet, human error occurs from time to time.

Thousands of adoptions are facilitated without major problems. However, now and again an adoption crashes. We must be realistic and prepare ourselves for the possibility. Until a waiver or the 90 days is up, we have not landed safely. But, on the 91st day we touch down like a feather. Like aviation travel, adoption is the safest and most direct route to infertile couples today. Until something better is created, just buckle your seat belt, know that emergency procedures may be necessary if our altitude begins to drop, and always remember we're all in God's hands; and we can't fight what he has inevitably planned for us, our prospective adoptive child, and our birth parents.

We welcome you all aboard flight adoption and hope you will sit back and enjoy your journey, being frightened and intimidated will not get us to our destination -only determination and courage will, and remember we are prepared with all the safety checks should they be needed.

Credits: Lynn