There are two problems when children spend too much time watching television or surfing the net. The first problem is the unfiltered, negative influences that enter their lives: hardness, cruelty, violence, crassness, and sexuality. The second problem is what children miss when they spend too much time with media; they often miss out on vital human interaction. Television and the Internet have a useful role to play in our lives, but they are no replacement for caring and active involvement with other people.

Of course prevention is the best cure. Many families choose to have computers and televisions available only in a family commons area such as a study or family room rather than in private bedrooms. Some families also choose to make television viewing available only on a limited basis, perhaps one favorite show per day.

Another important preventive measure is to schedule regular, fun family time and one-on-one time. Whether you go play ball, go to the library, go shopping, or go for a snack, the active and interactive nature of such activities enhances relationships and aids in children's development. Be proactive in scheduling time together so that television does not take over family time.

There are books with thousands of creative and fun activities for children. The activities range from nature explorations to cooking. Such activities can enlarge children's talents and bring family members together.

A badly neglected but very effective way to help children manage their own viewing habits is the cultivation of an educated conscience. If children are provided with a warm human environment, lots of good music and movies, and good discussions with adults, they are more likely to choose appropriate entertainment for themselves.

Some children may be drawn to the sensational or negative that is common in the media. We can help them develop discerning taste by asking them how they feel about a particular movie, song, or idea. We cannot force them to favor edifying entertainment, but we can provide it for them and then we can help them notice and process their own reaction. We can help them cultivate a taste for material that is healthy and positive.

If television and computers have already taken over your family, you may need to plan some special activities to get people reconnected with each other and the real world. At the same time you may need to start setting limits on viewing. If your children are older, it may be helpful to have a family discussion about the culture you want to have in your family and the proper steps for cultivating that culture.

Credits: Franklin Covey