Lezli Adams
Articles
Dump The Baby
More and more States are passing what they refer to as Baby Dumping laws. I strongly disagree with this whole concept for several reasons. I think they are a pacifer to avoid more serious issues. We... [more]
Placing for Selfish Reasons?
Placing for Selfish Reasons?I am a 37-year-old mother of two beautiful daughters living in Maryland. There ages are 17 years old and 9 years old. Recently my eldest got into a lot of trouble and too [more]
Contact Disturbs Kids
My husband and I have adopted two daughters after raising our three natural children. The birth mother knows who we are because we were the former foster parents of the girls. She refuses to leave us... [more]
Can I Put Myself Up for Adoption?
Can I put myself up for adoption?- EmiliaAt first I thought this question was someone's idea of a joke. Then an awful thought hit me: This could be a child in distress. Maybe in an abus [more]
Your Answer Upset Me
Your answer upset meDear Lezli,I would like to tell you my feeling about the adoptive parents who want the contact from the birthmother stopped. Your answer really upset m [more]
Adopted Sibs Reacting Differently
My two adopted children are 12 and 11. The oldest, a boy, seems unaware/indifferent, rarely mentions it. My daughter, however, doesn't like me to tell my friends that she's adopted - she feels it is... [more]
An Open Letter to Rosie O...
I am writing this not just for myself but for Birthmothers everywhere. Ms O'Donnell, since you are considered a spokesperson for adoption, we strongly feel you need a bit of education about... [more]
Pains of the Past
Slowly the veils began to unfold. The stories of her life rolled from her mind. Feelings in check for so long emerged in rivers of tears. Why was she so sad, she pondered, when life was so right at... [more]
Forever Yours
Whisper. Whisper his name as you drift into slumber. Think of the few hours spent together after months of getting to know one another. Never speak the name aloud. No one must hear an utter of... [more]
Has Society Again Prevailed?
Insensitivity stinks. I was watching my favorite soap opera, which of course I deny watching regularly, the other day. The scene was between two long time characters, discussing the female's possible... [more]
Society's Tailspin
I run across many birth mothers of my generation who are anti-adoption. This saddens me. Granted I was not treated fairly and neither were many of them. It took me many years to realize that my... [more]
Happiness After Placement?
In July of 2000 I had a baby boy that I placed for adoption. Since then I have had a very hard time dealing with my loss. I feel that I will never fill the void in my heart, it feels like my heart... [more]
Reunion: Making First Contact
I have recently started a search for my biological family. The search is close to an end which means it will soon be time to contact her. I would like to know the best way to contact her and what... [more]
Roadblocks in Search
Roadblocks in SearchI have recently begun my search for my birthmother. Her name was listed on my adoption papers, but I recently found out that I have an older sibling. I always thought [more]
Holiday Blues: For Those Who MissTheir Families at the Holidays
Reunited but apart When I, and many others, first started our quests to find our birthchildren, our only hope was to find them alive and happy. Of course we held onto a dream that they would once... [more]
Tension in Reunion
"Two years is not nearly long enough to be in a position to know a lot yet, but I was wondering if you experience any unspoken tension between you and your daughter. I reunited with my b-mother... [more]
Promises of Confidentiality?
As a birthmom, were you promised confidentiality?AnneDear Anne,There is finally a trend started towards states opening adoption records. I applaud all who endorse this. Adoption 'l [more]
Weepy After Reunion
Weepy After Reunion"I have found my son, he has a happy life with his adoptive family, we are in frequent contact, we have met face to face and it went very well. I didn't cry when I was with him, [more]
Is Anything 'Normal'?
"I am a 52 year old adoptee and found my bmom a year and a half ago. We have exchanged lots of letters and phone calls. We live 500 miles apart. I have been there to visit and met my half sibs. Now... [more]
A Student Asks Lezli About Negatives in Adoption
I am doing a essay on whether adoption is good or bad and the problems and the advantages involved. I picked this topic because I believe in adoption and want to know what you think about it.Thank... [more]
Expressing Feelings
Music holds the keys to our hearts. Someone once told me that if I wrote a song about any one little thing that was on my mind, it would touch millions. We are kindred spirits in that many share the... [more]
Love & Acceptance
I was asked once what I, as a birth mother, would look for were I able to 'pick' prospective parents for my child. I gave this a lot of thought. Of course monetary wealth came to mind. Who would not... [more]
Using a Paid Searcher
Lezli, Hi,My question is about paid searchers. I am a Bmom searching for my child, and I really want to hire a paid searcher since I have exhausted my other options. I am willing to do just about... [more]
